What happens when you love someone too much? Well, first of all you start considering the person the finest creation of God. Even the person’s most irksome habits seem most tolerable and you are ready to overlook them most willingly. Small words of appreciation from the person seem to be having the potential to make or break your life and any chastisement can simply wipe away all joys from life. Love is a funny emotion since even if you realise the uselessness of it and stupidity of your actions, you fail to get over that known futility. But fights are the greatest demons in love. They can turn your life topsy-turvy and abolish all kinds of happiness with a vehemence. You are completely drained out and start questioning the reason for your existence.
But then all said and done, why do we fall in love in certain point in time or the other. Some once in life, while others even more than once. What is this love, to be honest? Is it some hormonal imbalance; is it some directive from the brain that compels us to get unmeshed in that emotion called ‘love’? Well, whatever it is, it’s a beautiful feeling of pure bliss. When you are in love, you are familiar with all these varied upheavals of emotions and seem to be living in a different zone altogether with your own ups and downs. And only when you come out of this zoned out phase, can you truly understand how things truly were when you had been in ‘love’.
You stay away from the bitterness of this world. It gives you a respite from the mundane daily grind. Even if you are roaming in shabby quarters of life, you are far above it and no amount of negativity or pessimism from others can pull you down. You are beyond mediocrity – you are in love. It’s a matter to be wondered how even the simplest of things seem enchanting when you are cocooned in that all encompassing emotion. Small gestures, apparently useless exchanges seem particularly paradisiacal. There is no class division in your mind when you are blinded by that most amazing emotion. The object of your love appears to be sent straight from the Heavens, just for you.
Probably the good things are so enchanting, you are willing to let go of the multiple negatives of this ‘quite scary’ emotion called love and are ready to set forth on its unchartered waters without any qualms whatsoever. Some beg to differ and say love mortifies more than appeases. But then we had never put in more importance to quantitative measure than the qualitative one, isn’t it? The good moments might be few but in essence they are quite infinite, ain’t it?
In love you seek for avenues to be together, look for opportunities to become one and explore things as one entity. You are happy when your loved one, reciprocates, you are happier when your loved one makes proclamations of love and you are happiest when your loved one seeks your approval for the ultimate social sanction of love – marriage. You are elated that your yearnings to be perpetually together have received fruition and you are out to receive eternal bliss. Little do you know that such a step can bring down the intensity of your emotions completely. Love remains intact but something happens to it, perhaps it takes a different direction all over again. Familiarity breeds contempt, we have often heard this saying in the past. And, perhaps that’s what happens to love enmeshed in marriage.
The essence of love lies in its hidden or secretive nature. Exhibitionism slowly erodes the finer qualities of this enchanting emotion. Isn’t love the only way you can rise above all, escape from a routine existence and be a part of rare exquisite joy, which is truly yours? There are moments of intense pain and agony, feelings of losing the most cherished one, but aren’t those bittersweet feelings testimony to the fact that you are in love?
Be in love, that’s the only way you can rise up, only solace to better oneself, the only approach to seek God. So do fall in love, nay, do rise up in love!